If you don’t normally curse, now’s not the time to start

Published on December 8, 2025
Duration: 0:47

This video, presented by a high-authority instructor from Tenicor, details a hierarchy for establishing verbal boundaries in a self-defense scenario. It emphasizes using profanity only if it's authentic to the speaker's normal vocabulary and serves to reinforce a boundary, rather than as a personal insult or an inauthentic attempt at intimidation. The core principle is to start with soft verbal commands, escalate to hard commands with increased volume, and only then consider profanity if it genuinely fits the speaker's style.

Quick Summary

In self-defense, establish verbal boundaries by starting with soft requests, escalating to hard commands with increased volume. Use profanity only if it's authentic to your speech and reinforces the boundary, avoiding its use as a personal insult or if it's not your natural vocabulary.

Chapters

  1. 00:00Exclamation vs. Personal Insult
  2. 00:18The Importance of Authenticity
  3. 00:31Establishing Verbal Boundaries

Frequently Asked Questions

When is it appropriate to use profanity in a self-defense situation?

Profanity should only be used if it is authentic to your normal vocabulary and serves to reinforce an established verbal boundary. Using it as a personal insult or if it's not your usual way of speaking can undermine your authority and potentially escalate the situation.

What is the recommended hierarchy for setting verbal boundaries?

Start with a soft verbal boundary (e.g., 'Please back up'). If that fails, escalate to a hard verbal boundary (e.g., 'Back up NOW!') with increased volume. Profanity can be considered as a final reinforcement if it aligns with your authentic communication style.

Why is authenticity important when using verbal commands in self-defense?

Authenticity ensures your commands sound genuine and authoritative. If you don't normally curse, attempting to do so in a high-stress situation will likely sound fake and weak, diminishing the impact of your boundary-setting efforts.

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